She is attractive, of course, but is that her chief asset? (Try to imagine her ten years from today.)
Do you want her because she is popular–because other men have wanted her? (Don’t be a copy-cat!)
Could you spend seven consecutive evenings in her company without being bored? (If the answer is affirmative, it is a good sign.)
Do you have similar tastes in most things?
Is she a good sport?
Is she reasonably healthy?
Is she a flirt? Does she make you jealous? (Decide whether you can stand the strain; your jealously will persist until you grow indifferent.)
Are you constantly irritated by some small mannerism of hers? (You can’t be terribly in love.)
Does she tell lies? Do you mind?
Is she a nag?
Is she quarrelsome? (The Bible warns, “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”)
Is she hard on other people? (Don’t judge by her behavior to you.)
Is she trying to reform you? How do you feel about being reformed?
Has she tried to boss you? (Maybe you need a boss.)
Would she put up with all your faults if she knew them?
When you quarrel, who capitulates first? (A combination of two stubborn mules is bad.)
Do you agree on children, or a career, or both? (Better settle this beforehand.)
Does she expect you to support her in a definite style? Could you count on her cooperation in hard times? Would she go to work if necessary?
Will she help you get ahead? Or will she pull you away from your work?
Can she handle money?
If you marry her, will you also be marrying her family?
Does she let you get around to see your old pals? (If you have been too infatuated to notice, make it a point of finding out.)
Are you proud to present her to your friends? (If not, reconsider.)
Do you hope to reform her? (Give up the idea. People change, but not according to plan.)
Do you know her faults? Are you willing to live with them?
Do you still think her perfect? (You’re wrong, of course, but marry!)
The Art of Manliness
The Art of Manliness
Don’t fear the blank page.
Do the work.
Put in the time.
Put it in front of an audience.
Move on immediately.
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The key has been to not obsess over the details and to keep working.
To stop polishing and start more.
This means spending less time with those things that we have given power.
It’s enlightening to consider your choices and eliminate things that don’t matter.
I could continue to pontificate, but I’m going to get back to the tasks at hand.
1. Warm up your voice
2. Give it some space
3. Embrace silence
4. Know what you are going to say
5. Talk to one person
7. Use your hands
8. Slow down
9. Have a conversation
10.Know your audience
11. Wear your headphones
Looking back too often will slow you down.
If I can’t create something, then I will try to learn something.
The opposite is also true.